We are happy to provide the following services for your mental health needs. Our therapeutic approach is collaborative and client-centered, offered in a comfortable and supportive atmosphere. Please ask if you don’t see an area of interest.
Treatment specializations include:
- Anger Management
- Anxiety / Mood
- Body Image Issues
- Career / Life Planning
- Couples Counseling
- Dream Analysis
- Eating Disorders
- Family Counseling
- Gender Identity
- Grief and Loss
- Group Therapy
- Higher Education Planning
- Life Transitions
- Multicultural / Social Justice
- Relationship Issues
- Sexual Addiction / Infidelity
- Spirituality / Meditation
- Stress Management
We live in a time when media images and cultural norms suggest men become stronger and more competent when they take control of a difficult situation. However, what happens when the pressure becomes too great to handle? Are you any less of a man / woman if you can’t handle the pressure? Unfortunately, morals and values can be compromised in order to relieve the pressure of mounting responsibilities. An unhealthy release of pressure (e.g. aggressive or competitive behaviors, sexual addiction, physical or emotional control, domestic violence, etc.) can lead to increase feelings of anxiety or “stuckness”, guilt, or frustration. Unresolved anger problems can also lead to more severe repercussions such as court fines, restraining orders, divorce, or even jail time. The process of overcoming anger is difficult, however it is possible with help. For this reason we provide 3 different ways to assist in your anger recovery.
Through the process of individual psychotherapy you can begin to explore aspects of your life that creates tension and frustration. Much like a tornado, anger consumes all innocent bystanders in its path. The destruction of anger can be deep and very painful. However, we can work together to discover a path of healing and understanding. You have the power to loosen the grasp of anger through patience and dedication.
In addition to individual psychotherapy, the anger group addresses the key components that may contribute to problems and feelings associated with anger. The group experience provides an opportunity for you to meet with others who are discouraged by their anger or who need help and understanding for their anger. Groups meet at a scheduled time and location for consistancy. A different topic of anger is discussed each week to guide the direction of discuss. The group is open to anyone, however a pre-screening interview is required to join the group.
Anger Classes- 8 & 16 Hours
The 8-hour anger class is based on the fundamental aspects that contribute to anger (i.e. social, cultural, emotional, and physical). The topics discussed in group therapy are explained in detail through a powerpoint presentation form. Current research in anger management is discussed as well as ways to over come anger. A short multiple choice quiz is provided for personal awareness of anger and to assess what was discussed in the course. Provided on a quarterly basis, the 8-hour class meets requirements for Snohomish and King Count’s court ordered treatment of anger. Times and location vary. Please visit the group page for current schedule.
We look for partners who are similar to ourselves. In the process of dating we come to love and cherish the time we spend with them. However, for whatever reason stressors and differences of opinion cause conflict. We often enter the relationship with an expectation of our partner (i.e. financial, emotional, sexual, etc.) based on prior dating and family upbringing. When our partner doesn’t meet our pre-established expectations we become disappointed in them. To make matters worse, we each have difficulty breaking cycles of unhealthy communication (i.e. fighting, yelling, belittling, etc.). Through couples counseling you will learn to rekindle the love and respect for your partner that was lost along the way. You can receive greater insight into how you contribute to the relationship both positively and negatively. By taking accountability for personal involvement in the relationship, you can begin to question the unrealistic expectations developed in your partner and begin to overcome the disappointment in them.
In an equal partnership, each person works side by side with equal effort. When one over-functions for the other, the balance is off-set and difficulties inevitably arise, resentment sets in, and bitterness takes hold. The bitterness than translates to increased agitation or a wondering eye. In desperation, one partner may even try to extrude control over the other (i.e. financial, physical, sexual withdrawal, silent treatment, etc.), which further damages the relationship and causes confusion in the partner.
Another reason for relational conflict is infidelity. Whether infidelity arises through pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, or flirtation / sexual encounters with close friends; forgiveness and understanding can be acquired to resolve the conflict. You can learn the best way to move forward in the difficult situation. In some situations separation or divorce is the best option. However, the majority of couples can work through the conflict and resolve their emotions (i.e. anger, sadness, frustration, depression, confusion, etc.) to become stronger and more connected. The journey is difficult and the excuses long for reasoning to jump ship. However, if you and your partner are dedicated to the recovery process anything is possible.
At one time or another we all become sad. However, if you find yourself sleeping longer hours, distracted with negative thoughts, or plans of suicide, you may be suffering from depression. There are varying degrees of depression and each person is affected differently. Also, depression can be a debilitating disorder leaving you feeling hopeless, week, and unable to perform simple tasks easily accomplished just weeks prior.
However, in the midst of despair, there is hope. Our counselors can provide an opportunity and space for you to feel heard. Counseling will also provide you with valuable skills to counter act the effects of depression to bring about a positive outcome through life’s challenges. Life is difficult, however the burden of depression can be lifted when you stand with another person. Call for help today.
We are constantly inundated with information from society, our family, or even our partners about the definition of beauty. As we listen to what is being said, we may start to create negative thoughts that prevent us from truly feeling happy with our self-image. To compensate for the emptiness, we may reduce our food intake, exercise to an excess, take laxatives, or even cycle through binging and purging. Whatever the struggles for perfection you suffer, Pacific Mental Health can help. A counselor can help you gain perspective in your life to break the cycle and bring about a healthy change. Don’t struggle alone anymore, call today.
Our social environments and the way we were raised contributes to how we feel about our self. When we have parents or caregivers who praise us as children or not, we develop an expectation that others (i.e. partners, friends, co-workers, etc.). However, if we rely too much on others for emotional security we can become disappointed when they fall short of our expectations. This in turn leads us to feel inadequate about our self. Through the process of therapy, you can develop an understanding of how to create emotional stability that comes from within, which will lead to a more uplifting and fulfilling life. Get started today in discovering the beauty from within.
Do You Have A Sex
When we become stressed in our lives for various reasons, we look for opportunities to relieve our anxieties or fears. Much like vacations, athletics, shopping, eating or drinking, sex is another form of release. Sex is a natural part of life. We all have an innate desire to have sexual experiences. However, when our desires for sexual gratification interfere with our jobs, relationships, responsibilities, or consume the majority of our daily thoughts then we might have a sexual addiction. Sexual addiction can be seen in many different ways, from internet searches and videos to more risky sexual behaviors such as unprotected one night stands or prostitution. There are varying degrees of sexual addiction. However, more important than defining the addiction, counseling is about discovering the root cause of the problem. When did my addiction begin? Was the start of the addiction in my adolescence, defined as sexual conquests to impress those around me? Or has the addiction manifest due to prior sexual abuse that is a secret from others? Whatever the origin, we are attracted to sex for different reasons. Through childhood / adolescent experience we shape our sexual expectations, which gives rise to our ultimate satisfaction or misery.
You have several options for your recovery. The first option is group therapy. Group therapy is an opportunity to hear other people’s experience and learn how they have been able to overcome their addiction. Much like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Sex Anonymous (SA) provides a similar format. SA usually uses a 12-step Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) approach. The 12-step program was established on Christian principles and integrates a belief system of looking towards God or a higher power to assist in the recovery process. 12-step SA groups are effective for some, however I believe groups allow you to only go so far with your treatment. Time is usually limited to a handful of participants. If you are looking for an opportunity to hang back and listen, this is a good option for you. SA groups are also a good option if you are on a limited budget. Much like AA, SA groups are provided mainly by donations. Good for the participant, not so good for the depth/ quality of the clinician that might be providing the group. SA groups usually have a set time each week and are open to public, so you can drop in to check it out.
Another option for sexual addiction is inpatient treatment. Programs are usually structured with individual therapy sessions as well as 12-step groups. Some programs are set-up to incorporate nature environments (i.e. camping, hiking, etc.), which is a good option if you have vacation time saved up and would like to get away for a period of time to work on your treatment. Such programs are designed for more severe paraphilliac disorders (i.e. voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc.), however, all forms of sexual addiction are addressed. Be prepared, the cost is expensive and most insurance companies don’t cover the cost of such treatments.
The third option is individual psychotherapy. Individual psychotherapy is more personal and client focused. Working with an individual clinician allows flexible schedule options for a busy life and doesn’t break the bank financially. We can talk more about the best treatment option for you and your goals. As a clinician, I work everyday with people such as yourself who are struggling to make sense of their addiction, to gain insight and restore balance and control to their life. The process of recovering from addiction is not easy, however worth the time and money to discover a new way of respecting not only yourself, but those whom you view as a sexual object of desire.